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When Your Life Springs a Leak!

Okay, so my house is older but not condemned.  The builder had a Bible on his desk, but his behavior did not match the book.  Many times we had to challenge him on the building specs and what he was filling our front porch with to avoid toxic fumes later.  Having said all of that, our diligence paid off and we love our home.  It is warm, inviting, and has held up under ice storms, high winds, and deep deep snow... yes, we have had deep deep snow here in NC... it is just a distant memory for some of us.

Anyway!  Although we love our home, the builder did choose to use certain items that were not the highest quality.... so for about 5 years.. maybe longer, I'm not always clicked into numbers.... my loving partner has been diligently repairing our toilets.  A flap here, a new inside thing there... you can tell I also don't do home repairs!  This past week; however, all of her amazing skills hit the fan so to speak and we sprung a leak.  Not just any leak.. a leak of urgent proportion so that we have had to climb up and down our deck steps every day to shut off ALL of the water so the constant flow of water coming out of the pipe even though it was turned off, would not flood the house.  Then we would have to climb back down the steps to turn the water on when we needed to cook, flush, brush, etc.

So it was off to our so favorite hardware store to order TWO new toilets so that we could be done with this bug a boo in our lives.  All was well, the order was made, and a promise of a call to schedule the installation was done.  They will call us; we were told.  We waited, and we waited.

Do you know how many times you need water in a day?  It is amazing to me how many buttocks muscles you really can build by climbing stairs.  I wonder why I spent all that money on a gym membership to use the stair climber!  Honestly!  So, even though the universe had given me ample time to be home yesterday... the only appointment that was finally scheduled was the preliminary appointment to come and check to see what items they would need to do the job.  Of course, we needed more items other than the toilets that were purchased.  Again, we were told to wait.  Once we went and purchased said items we could then WAIT to be scheduled for installation.

So, this morning after we did what we were told and the information was received by the plumbers...by 8:51am yesterday morning that they were free to schedule the installation.... we waited.  Now the universe had given me most of yesterday to be home and most of today.... but no call.  I went to work at 4pm yesterday & that is when they called and left a message. They did not use my cell as we had instructed so I could be contacted at work.. the message was on the home phone so by the time we got home & got the message.....they had already gone home for the day.

I awoke this morning with great anticipation to get 'er scheduled and done before I went into work this afternoon, but when I placed the call I was asked, "What day next week would you like them to come?"

    "NEXT WEEK?"  "NO!"  I was adamant that I would not be held hostage any longer.  Although I love a firm buttocks... enough is enough! So we scheduled for this afternoon.... which meant I had to cancel clients, lose pay, and find other available times to schedule my folks next week.  I indulged in a moment of selfishness and chose to commit to the 12:00pm to 4:00pm window.   I felt happy that this saga was about to end and we could resume our luxurious two bathroom home.  I basked in my assertiveness while eating my now cold steel cut oats and cold coffee... then the phone rang.

Yep, the lady who scheduled today's appointment had made an error.  It absolutely couldn't be done today.. four toilets would take too long.  FOUR?!  I cleared up the confusion but she would not budge.. it was not happening today after all.  "I've cancelled clients!"  "I've removed everything out of the bathrooms!"  My buttocks is sore! :)  (okay, a little TMI and drama; sorry)  I stood firm in my belief that this project would be done before Monday!  She finally agreed to get someone out tomorrow.. between 8:30am and 12:00pm.....which really means I'll wait all morning and they will come about noon and be in our home until supper..... aaaahhhhhh... still a hostage, but full of hope.

So.... I have a choice.  Ruminate on my circumstance or open myself up to another view.  I choose the latter. I am now free to get my truck serviced.  I am now free to eat dinner before 8pm tonight.  I am now free to write this blog.  I am now free to work on the SHEBA sequel, and I am now free to meditate or do nothing!  I guess I am not a hostage after all!  I AM FREE :)

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2013 Resolutions vs. Intentions

We have all made them!  We have all broken them.  We often dread them!  Resolutions!  When the New Year rolls around we gear up to  resolve to lose weight, be kinder to others, stop procrastinating, eat healthier, work harder, make more money..... and what happens?  We make the same resolutions the very next year!

So, this year I did not make global resolutions, but that doesn't mean I don't expect great things for myself in 2013.  I believe in attracting great things to me and I intend to bring all awesome health, wealth, and love to me and those around me by not making resolutions but by setting positive intentions.  Here's the difference.

When you recognize that something in your life is out of whack or lacking, you may lean toward feeling guilty, bad, wrong, or less than when you compare yourself to others.  This feeling generates the resolution that is made out of a negative state instead of a positive one.  It is no wonder that we drop the ball on a resolution that we don't feel passionate about.

Intentions, on the other hand, is something that comes from a place of positive desire. A place of ownership and knowledge that we deserve it in our lives.  Intentions is a sacred contract between you and your Creator.  When I set an intention, I do it from my highest and best self because it will not only enhance my life but my intention is that it will also enhance those around me.

Intentions are made out of compassion and love for ourselves and for others.  If we choose to believe that we are divinely created and we are here on earth to be of selfless service and love others; then we will offer daily intentions that will be in harmony with our sacred path.

So, as the sun rises every morning; allow yourself the gift of time to set your daily intentions.  Believe in the power of that intention and stay positive.  Believe that what you put out into the universe will present itself.  Open yourself up to the sacred divinity within you and attract what you intend for your day.  You may choose to do that during your morning meditation, or you may choose to journal your intentions.  Writing them down is very powerful and is also a way to track when those intentions start showing up.


Then, as the sun sets; give yourself another gift.  Take time to be alone and offer gratitude for all the positive attractions that came into your day.  Open your heart space and fill yourself with love for your work, your family, and your life.  Set your intention for an awesome night sleep and to wake the next morning with the enthusiasm and energy you need to be a positive light in your world.

Above all, be in a state of love; for yourself and all other souls.  If you make only one intention... to be love in everything you think, say, and do, ... this one intention would be the greatest one of all.  Happy New Year everybody!

When Tragedy Strikes... How Do We Respond?

I work all the time, either in the office counseling children and families who have been through abuse, divorce, or have behavioral issues.  I host a weekly radio show, which involves  setting up guests, preparing for the show, posting the show, and tweeting it out for all of you to find it and download it.  I am a children's book author and I peddle my books at signings, events, book clubs, etc.  I also blog.... which is what I have found time to do today amidst all the unfinished Christmas shopping yet to be done!

So it is no great surprise that I didn't know about or even hear about the horrific scene that played out yesterday in Connecticut at Sandy Hook Elementary School until much later yesterday evening.  When I heard about it; like many of you, I was deeply saddened and in shock.  It will never be okay for innocent children or adults to be killed, gunned down, and families destroyed by another person.  "How could this happen?" was one of my first thoughts.... but I already know.

Since the beginning of time, we have not lived with compassion. We have convinced ourselves that solving problems through wars and killing millions of people and destroying property is okay if we get what we are fighting for.  We have allowed ourselves the right to hate specific groups or individuals based on their religious beliefs, color of their skin, sexual orientation, or the team they play on!  As I read the posts on Face Book it is clear, that many people now feel justified in calling the gunman names.  They feel justified at waging war against him.... so what does that make them?

Raising compassionate kids starts in the womb.  You have to love yourself and love your baby with all that you have within you for the connection to start.  When the baby is born it is vital that you spend quality face time with your baby connecting with them, being tuned in, meeting their needs, and showing them the way.  Families are quick to buy kids expensive presents and lavish gifts to make up for the time they don't spend with them.  They allow school, after school, teams, coaches, and friends to give their kids quality time instead of having the face time with their kids that they really need to have.

So, I already know, that in some cases when a tragedy like this occurs; there has been a disconnect, first from the person's internal compassion for others and a disconnect from their loving Creator.  Whether that happened because the family is disconnected or there is mental illness that has disconnected the individual from their own value system is always the question.  It doesn't make what happened right, but we can't sit in judgement of an individual because then we are not in compassion anymore and looking for vengeance.  Hate will always destroy us from the inside first, and then we destroy others.

So, I surround all families, children, and individuals with love and light.  I open my heart to learn the lesson that may be meant for me through this horrific event.  I thank the angel children who died yesterday for the light they put on this earth before they passed.  To my earthly brother who was born into a different family, and  who lost his way, I release my anger at what he did and love the spirit within him because that is who I am called to be.  Namaste

Four Saints Brewing Company, A Dream Becoming a Reality

Joel McClosky and Andrew Deming are amazing guys.  I went to their special backer incentives pick up today to tour the BREWERY and to hug the guys that so inspire me.  They have gone from a thought, to a dream, to the reality of having the building in downtown Asheboro!   They hope to be up and selling in about six months.  

Although the brewery is not open for business, Four Saints Brewing Company has already earned the Best In Show Beer and Best of Show for the Big Sip Expo!  The vision that these guys have for the very first brewery in Randolph County is exactly what I want!  A place where I'm called by my name when I show up and the feeling that I

am really welcome.  As I listened to Andrew talk about the renovations; exposing the aged bricks that have so much character and a story to tell; I could see the vision. I imagined myself sipping a jalapeno beer next to that brick wall in the warm and inviting lights and creating my own stories with old friends and new friends that are sure to be met in that special place.

So, how do you go from a thought, to a dream,  to the dream becoming a reality?  It is all about passion, vision, and the most fearless word of all, YES!  Joel and Andrew chose to say yes to their dream and then give all of us a chance to take the ride along with them.  As a backer of the Four Saints Brewing Company I am so happy that good guys do finish first!  I believe in the power of dreaming and these guys will always be my heroes!  

What lesson can we learn?  ANYTHING is possible, and these guys are proving it!  When you're in down town Asheboro, take a walk on Fayetteville Street and check them out!  As cliche as it is.... this will be a place where, "Everybody knows your name."

Four Saints Brewing Company  ( OPENING SOON!)

218 S. Fayetteville St.

Asheboro, NC 27203

To hear the guys on the Second Chances Radio show; click here!  http://toginet.com/podcasts/secondchances/SecondChancesLIVE_2012-09-06.mp3?type=podpage

Teaching Kids To Be Thankful

If you want to raise compassionate kids who are thankful; you have to begin when they are young.    Children will emulate what you say, do, and feel from the moment they are aware of the outside world. You smile at them, they smile back.  You goo goo gaga, they respond.  

When children are absorbing the world around them that is your moment to begin teaching compassionate and thankful living.  Are you grateful for the simple moments in your life?  Do you feel happy just being quiet?  Do you feel content sitting on the deck and listening to the birds?  Many times we forget to just be thankful in the moment without the bells, whistles and new big kid toys.  

If your children grow up watching you "needing" the next new thing to make you happy, they too will become a "I want it" kid.  I've actually heard people say they will not be really happy until they get__________; whatever it is they are dreaming about.   If you cannot choose to be happy in the moment you are in and find thankfulness for what is.... you cannot teach that to your kids.  You'll get caught up in buying the newest toy and overwhelming them with stuff instead of your time.

Life is all about choices, and here are some ways to embrace and model thankfulness this season:

• Make a conscious choice to show your kids the simple pleasures. (Take a walk, listen for bird sounds, help out someone in need...)
•  Spend face time with your kids and tell them how happy you feel just being with them. (Make cookies, do crafts, teach them a sport...)
• Avoid using toys and things to show your love. (Quality time will be what they remember and will last a lifetime) 
• Tell and show your kids that people are ALWAYS more important than things by always putting people in the family and outside the family first.
• Model selfless service and involve your family in community giving.  (Volunteer, donate.... )

Choose to be happy... and look for the blessings in each moment.